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Dr. John H. Braccio talks with Dave Akerly of WILS on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show, on 6/13/17 on WILS, 1320 a.m.in Lansing, Michigan about HOW TO CONTROL RAGE AND ANGER konya merkez escort IN A TOO OFTEN ANGRY WORLD. This is something important to more and more people every day. They do not address the macro world issues but rather the micro level of how individuals and family members can deal with rage and anger. A few things for individuals to do would include stop reading twitter and Facebook comments that make catastrophic predictions about people, groups, and organizations. Do the same with comments by some politicians and talking head experts who spew forth extreme negativity. In fact, take a break from 24 hour news and constant phone alerts on a regular basis. You also can turn off your phone for hours at a time. Dr. Braccio mentions deep relaxation, calming imagery, positive self-talk, positive affirmations, cognitive-restructuring, and hypnosis as techniques one can use to neutralize anger and rage. He also says there must be awareness that anger and rage are predictably self-destructive in the lives of countless individuals and most tragically, often also destructive for the individuals they love most.

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Dr. Braccio discusses “Critical Mindsets for Successful Athletes” on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 3/8/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. What are some psychological skillsets/mindsets that are critical for athletes to reach their maximal athletic success? They are the same whether you are going to be an Olympic Gold Medalist or a seldom played team member.The goal is to be the best you can be konya merkez eskort as an athlete.

They discuss Denzel Valentine and how he has developed into maybe the best basketball player in the country. Even though few have the skill sets of Denzel, he has developed them as best he could. Each athlete needs to try to do the best possible to reach his or her potential. It is exceptionally hard to hit your peak as an athlete. Key factors are:

1.  Desire
2. Realistic Goals
3. Commitment
4. Self-Motivation
5. Learn from failure
6. Positive Self-Talk
7. Not give up
8. Keep perspective on sports and life

In many years working with athletes, we as psychologists do a lot of relaxation/training, hypnosis, and visualization techniques to help them develop the correct mindset to achieve to their potential.

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Dr. Braccio discusses “What makes a strong and healthy family that will last for the current and next generation” on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 2/29/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. They talk about how to build strong and healthy families for the present and next generation.It is critical that family mersin eskort members become one and build traditions that will be treasured for a lifetime. Key factors are communication, sharing, commitment, modelling, spirituality, united in problem sharing, appreciation, and time together. Dave shared that his father’s parents died when he was young and he was taken in by other family members who gave him love and security. A successful nation needs strong and healthy families as it’s core.

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Dr. Braccio talks on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 2/2/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. Dr.Braccio randomly found an obituary written by Stephen Kloosterman on Jennifer VanderStelt and was moved by her fight silifke escort numaraları with cancer that she lost on December 30, 2015. Her reported advice on a Facebook post is good advice for all of us whether at the highest or lowest ebb of our life on earth: THE SUN IS SHINING ON THIS BEAUTIFUL DAY. IT’S BEEN A DIFFICULT WEEK, BUT I AM NOT GIVING UP….PLEASE DO NOT TAKE YOUR HEALTH FOR GRANTED, LIVE IN THE PRESENT AND LET GO OF THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE. Too many people need to hear what this young woman told us in the midst of her losing but valiant battle with cancer. CARPE DIEM/SEIZE THE DAY is what the Roman Poet, Horace, advised us to do every day we have life on earth. Jennifer gives us the same advice 2000 years later.

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On 1/26/16, Dr.Braccio discusses on “The Drive With Jack Ebling” Radio Show with Jack Ebling and Graham Couch of the Lansing State Journal about how universities are taking football scholarship offers away from an athlete when another athlete is silifke eskort ilanları felt to be better. They also discuss how students do not honor commitments from universities. There is some discussion on how an early signing period might help resolve this problem on both sides.

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Dr. Braccio talks on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 1/26/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. They discuss how women have historically been underdiagnosed with AD/HD and the harm this has psychologically caused when upset over their symptoms which has led to unnecessary anxiety and depression.

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Question

Dr.Braccio: My husband and I just had the final high school graduation party for anamur bayan escort our youngest child. We’ll be empty nesters in September. Our concern is that we’ve lost ourselves as a couple over the years. We get along fine but lack closeness emotionally and physically. Our priorities were our children and they are all doing well. We want to get close but quite candidly are awkward even when we talk about ourselves and feelings let alone anything more intimate. We want to love each other like we did but have no idea what to do. Our pastor has suggested a marriage encounter weekend. What do you think we should do?

Answer

You need to put the love back into your marriage. With the two of you in agreement that you “want to love each other like you did”, nothing can stop you but yourselves. The key is to find a strategy to start.

A marriage encounter weekend is a great idea. You can go back to the beginning of your relationship through discussion and written dialogue. Begin to fan the embers to put the magic of emotional and physical intimacy back into your relationship. After being loving and successful parents, refocus the energy and emotion you selflessly used to help them back into yourselves.

The following are some suggestions to help:

1.  Because it is hard to say things of emotion to each other in person, you can begin to write notes of endearment to each other. If this is too hard, find cards and poems that express your feelings. This type of dialoguing can be most effective.

2.  Try to express feelings of endearment to each other when possible in an attempt to draw closer together. Even if initially awkward, set aside times to do this.

3.  Hug and touch each other in caring ways in an attempt to develop more and more intimacy. You do not know what you have been missing.

4.  Reminisce about when you fell in love and how it felt. Try to rekindle the old feelings. As an old Romberg song goes, “Golden days in the sunshine of our happy     youth”.

5.  Revisit places you were at as lovers that can help bring back the old memories.

6.  Do new things to build a new base where emotional and physical intimacy can develop. You two are in a rut where intimacy has been lacking. A trip to Mackinaw Island, Florida or even a local hotel for the night could be helpful.

7.  Share romantic movies and love ballads together.  Listen to popular music from the past that can conjure up loving memories.

8.  If in spite of your best efforts you cannot bring the old feelings back, you may find an experienced therapist could be helpful.

I would say prognosis is very good for you two. You were great lovers and then became great parents. Now is the time to bring back the intimate emotional and physical love you had and again deserve. Go for it!

Question

Dr.Braccio: We always try silifke eskort ilanları to give everything we can to our two children and give them opportunities we never had. Granted, we’ve not always gone to as many of their events as our parents did and as we have wanted because of our heavy work schedules, but both of us have always been involved as best we can and try to be around to help. What hurts us is that both children told us that they feel they’re second in our lives and even though they love and appreciate their grandparents, they feel they are asked to do our work. They want us around them more. We’ve tried to talk to them and explain the work situation, but both are not happy with us. Our parents feel we need to slow down in our careers and have more quality time with the kids as they did with us. We wonder if they’re brats or if we’re the problem. What’s wrong here? What’s missing that makes two early teens so upset?

Answer

Let me begin by complimenting you for trying to give every opportunity to your children that you never had. This is a noble goal. What is missing is the bonding with your children that you had with your parents. Ironically, even though you had less, your relationship with your parents was better than what you both have with your children. To have “things” is wonderful, but they do not make up for involved parenting, family bonding and the love that comes from close family relationships.

Your children want more time with both of you. Your parents are right when they say you need more “quality time” with your children. They want you more involved in their lives. They want you at their events and as integral parts of their lives. That they have not chosen peer relationships over both of you is a tribute to your parents and very positive in this day and age. They have worked to maintain the sense of family with your children as they instilled it in both of you. If they were brats, they would want more things and not more time with both of you.

A problem is that you want your parents to take on your role with the children. Your children have a legitimate concern here. Accept this and realize you need to take on the role of active and involved parents now or forever lose this role. Also remember in a few years they will be on their own. If you want a long term close relationship, you need to cement the bonding they obviously want.

You obviously have a strong sense of family and great love for your children. They obviously love both of you. What they are crying out for is more love in the form of your time and less things. To honor their request would be a demonstration of the love you have for them.

A good suggestion would be for you two to examine what is important in life and make plans accordingly. You need to look at your careers and time commitments in relation to family commitments. Finding the balance is a problem for many persons. I am sure your love will give you direction.