STRATEGIES TO OVERCOME THE TOXIC EFFECTS OF AN ABUSIVE AND TOXIC PARENT
here are few things worse than being a child of a punitive,hypercritical, unloving, domineering, self-absorbed, threatening, and even physically abusive parent. Outcomes to the human psyche are very painful and are often present the rest of the person’s life. Unfortunately,outcomes include boundary problems, low self-esteem, lack of love for self,bending to what others want,attachment issues, high anxiety,severe depression and an inability to develop equal 50-50 relationships. Strategies to overcome the toxic effects of a toxic parent would include the following: 1.Develop a strong spiritual sense of appropriate self-love and self-respect. 2.Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. 3.Recognize self as a strong person not willing to allow the parental bully from the past to still bully you. 4.Conduct a burial for all the negative views of self resulting from the bad or even evil behaviors of the psychologically destructive bully parent. 5.Conduct a ritual washing of your hands or hair in a matter symbolic of ending the bully influences from the past in your current life. It is a present-day washing similar to Pontius Pilate to not be willing to accept responsibility for the despicable bully tactics of a toxic parent in the past. 6. Write out feelings on an ongoing basis to desensitize you to the abuse you suffered and a recognition of how small and even evil a parent was who would bully and abuse you as a child…I will personally say it is hard to imagine how a parent can abuse a child. The mere thought of a parent abusing an innocent child brought into the world who deserved love and protection is to often a sad reality Fortunately,many brave persons do overcome the effects of a childhood toxic parent to enjoy the present with great hopes for the future.