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In interviewing parents of children with AD/HD, the following activities were said to help them during the Holidays and beyond.If you think about each one carefully, you will see anamur eskort bayan they can help you. I used these points in one of my seminars.
1. Closely co-parent during the good and bad periods and be as consistent as possible.
2. Planned alternative times that one parent primarily parents and the other takes time
off.
3. Take a day at a time.
4. Deal with one problem at a time.
5. As possible, parent time outs when on emotional overload.
6. Write a diary of your feelings.
7. Letters to God letting all your feelings out.
8. All family members must know AD/HD is a family issue and all are involved in
maintaining family sanity.
9. Be ready to problem-solve/brainstorm whenever the moment is ripe.
10. A good cry to let the hurt and anger out.
11. Maintain the same medication dosages and times.
12. A good sleep.
13. A massage/physical exercise/reading/a trip to the hot tub/treat yourself to something
nice/deep relaxation strategies/hypnosis/watching a move/listening to or playing
music, etc.
14. Talking to a close friend(s) and/or family member(s) as possible.
15. Talking to parents with AD/HD children.
16. Parent getaways during the holidays as during the rest of the year.
17. Stay away from toxic people in your life.
18. Stay away from places that have too much activity and cause sensory overload.
19. Accept “clutterness.”
20. Keep them busy with activities that can be done quickly. (As one parent said, “I feel
like a Las Vegas card dealer”.)
21. Try to give advance cues as best you can during transitions from one activity to
another.
22. Let others know about your child in an honest and straightforward way.
23. Maintain saneness and predictability as best one can during such an eventful period
as the holidays.
24. Avoid the “big struggle” when family members go to war against each other.
25. Balance attention in the family to try to meet each member’s needs.
26. Accept what you must and change what you can with yourself and your child.
27. Love and respect yourself as you do your child and other loved ones.
28. Never give up hope.
29. Seek professional help when you feel it is necessary.

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This is the first of some newsletters I will write during the 2007 holiday period.I hope this will be a time of great joy and spiritual awakening for you and those you kocasinan eskort love and care for. I say this aware of the pressures this period causes for many and my goal is to be helpful.
As we move closer and closer to the holiday season, now is the time to prepare in a way to reduce as much pressure as possible. For too many people, the holiday period has become a financial and emotional nightmare that people dread and wish would never happen again.
I propose that you try to get into the holiday spirit by controlling what you do as best you can and enjoy it. I love the holiday season! In Michigan we often have beautiful winter days with cold star filled skies reflecting against a snow laden landscape. It is a time to reflect on the past and try to fill our minds with thoughts of why we are celebrating. Thanksgiving is a time to thank God for the positive things we have as well as to appreciate the beauty of the earth and look for the positive in our lives. It also is a time to be with family and friends. If we are far from family and friends, we can share with pictures, emails, letters and phone conversations.
The holiday period also includes the national holiday of Christmas. This is a day that Christians celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, who came to earth to die for our sins so we could be in heaven for eternity. Jews celebrate Hanukkah and other religions celebrate their beliefs during the holiday period. The key is to try to deal with our spiritual side and maybe come closer to whatever purpose we feel we have on earth.
The holiday time is also a time where people share gifts. The key is not to go into debt, but to give gifts in the spirit of love and caring from a Christian or other religious/moral perspective and not to compete with others and mindlessly give gifts.

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Anger is something we all experience.The key mersin anamur eskort bayanları is dealing with it effectively. The following “Tips To Control Anger” will be discussed in an upcoming Brownbag Audio Freedom Kit being prepared at present. It is a comparison to my program on Anger entitled, I”m Free From Destructive Anger”. Shortly, there also will be an audio discussion on the “Ebling and You” Radio Program for you to hear on anger.

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1. Humor.
2. Count to 10…count to 20.
3. Breath Deeply.
4. Visualizations.
5. Avoid letting the anger out in a negative way.
6. Mantra.
7. See the other side.
8. Think of the destructive impact on you physically and emotionally.
9. Think of the negative impact on others.
10. How important will this problem be in the future? In a year? In ten years? In 100 Years?
11. Use the “I” versus “You’” statement about how you feel in discussion with Active Listening
to better understand the feelings of the other person.
12. Don’t hold a grudge.
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Effectively dealing with a child’s disrespect is a crucial part of effective parenting.Much of the therapy done in our offices is with well meaning parents who cannot control the inappropriate karatay genç kızlar behavior of their children. They falsely feel that parental discipline shows a lack of love. Hopefully, my response to a parent’s question will be helpful to you. Call me if you have some specific concerns of your own,

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I’m having major disrespect problems from my ten year old daughter. She tells me to shut up and will not do what I want unless she wants to. But then she will be wonderful when I get mad and threaten her with punishment. But I hate getting mad at her. Her therapist is concerned because I’m not consistent in taking her for appointments. But some days when she’s supposed to go to therapy, things come up that will be good for her and I cancel. Now I’m getting calls from school about her making inappropriate comments to teachers and students. My ex-husband says he does not want to, but is threatening to seek primary physical custody if I don’t gain her respect and take control. I think he’s unfair. I’m lost, but don’t want to hurt her self-image by always being mad at her. What should I do?

Answer

You need to immediately respect yourself and see her treatment of you as something you have allowed due to low self-esteem. Say to yourself, “II will no longer tolerate these behaviors for her sake and my sake.”
You need to change your outlook and discipline strategies to take on an effective parenting role. To begin with, have no tolerance for your daughter telling you to “shut up” and not do what you want when it is a reasonable request. These are learned behaviors and good parenting requires you to set reasonable standards for her behavior with clearly known and logical consequence punishments when she does not do what is expected. For example, let her know for each “shut up” she says to you she will not watch television, play games, do what she likes, etc. for 24 hours. You cannot waver on whatever reasonable consequence you determine.
Meet with her and clearly discuss what will be unacceptable and what the consequences will be for inappropriate behaviors. To get her involved will enhance the process due to her investment in it.
That she is “wonderful” when you get mad and threaten her with punishment has a positive side because it shows she can behave if she wants to. The problem is that she and not the parent is in charge of her behavior.
She needs limits to become an effective person. Limits on her inappropriate behavior is a form of love. It helps allow her to develop a sense of right and wrong and be a good human being.
If you and her therapist have an agreed upon treatment plan for her, you need to make sure she goes to her sessions for her sake and also to show you will carry though with what needs to be done to make her a more effective human being. The therapist cannot help her if you do not consistently take her to planned sessions. The message is that the sessions are not important and this will diminish their effectiveness. You also need to work with the therapist so you both are going in the same direction to help her.
That her “inappropriate statements” have transferred to school is a bad sign that they will only get worse until your daughter learns to behave. Changes must begin immediately at home.
The best way to not have to deal with changes in custody is to positively take control of your daughter as an effective and loving mother. If you do not do this and problems continue, then if your ex-husband can demonstrate he can be a more effective parent, you do run the risk of custody change. To eliminate making unnecessary custody changes, make every effort to be an effective parent. You, your daughter, and her father deserve it. As hard as it may be to even think about, if you cannot control her at home and she continues to behave poorly at school, then a change in custody may be what is best for your daughter.
You may find ongoing therapy may also help you to develop better self-esteem and be more effective and less defensive as a parent.

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Even the best intentioned parents, when they use ineffective parenting techniques, raise disrespectful children.I get an kocasinan escort bayan amazing number of calls from parents who have lost control of their children. The key is for parents to not forget “parenting” is a full time job and requires being able to say “no” and model appropriate parenting behaviors. Too many loving parents must learn true love for our children is to teach them to be good human beings who effectively live and contribute in our society. I believe the following response to a question to me may be helpful

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I’m having major disrespect problems from my ten year old daughter. She tells me to shut up and will not do what I want unless she wants to. But then she will be wonderful when I get mad and threaten her with punishment. But I hate getting mad at her. Her therapist is concerned because I’m not consistent in taking her for appointments. But some days when she’s supposed to go to therapy, things come up that will be good for her and I cancel. Now I’m getting calls from school about her making inappropriate comments to teachers and students. My ex-husband says he does not want to, but is threatening to seek primary physical custody if I don’t gain her respect and take control. I think he’s unfair. I’m lost, but don’t want to hurt her self-image by always being mad at her. What should I do?

Answer

You need to immediately respect yourself and see her treatment of you as something you have allowed due to low self-esteem. Say to yourself, “I will no longer tolerate these behaviors for her sake and my sake.”
You need to change your outlook and discipline strategies to take on an effective parenting role. To begin with, have no tolerance for your daughter telling you to “shut up” and not do what you want when it is a reasonable request. These are learned behaviors and good parenting requires you to set reasonable standards for her behavior with clearly known and logical consequence punishments when she does not do what is expected. For example, let her know for each “shut up” she says to you she will not watch television, play games, do what she likes, etc. for 24 hours. You cannot waver on whatever reasonable consequence you determine.
Meet with her and clearly discuss what will be unacceptable and what the consequences will be for inappropriate behaviors. To get her involved will enhance the process due to her investment in it.
That she is “wonderful” when you get mad and threaten her with punishment has a positive side because it shows she can behave if she wants to. The problem is that she and not the parent is in charge of her behavior.
She needs limits to become an effective person. Limits on her inappropriate behavior is a form of love. It helps allow her to develop a sense of right and wrong and be a good human being.
If you and her therapist have an agreed upon treatment plan for her, you need to make sure she goes to her sessions for her sake and also to show you will carry though with what needs to be done to make her a more effective human being. The therapist cannot help her if you do not consistently take her to planned sessions. The message is that the sessions are not important and this will diminish their effectiveness. You also need to work with the therapist so you both are going in the same direction to help her.
That her “inappropriate statements” have transferred to school is a bad sign that they will only get worse until your daughter learns to behave. Changes must begin immediately at home.
The best way to not have to deal with changes in custody is to positively take control of your daughter as an effective and loving mother. If you do not do this and problems continue, then if your ex-husband can demonstrate he can be a more effective parent, you do run the risk of custody change. To eliminate making unnecessary custody changes, make every effort to be an effective parent. You, your daughter, and her father deserve it. As hard as it may be to even think about, if you cannot control her at home and she continues to behave poorly at school, then a change in custody may be what is best for your daughter.
You may find ongoing therapy may also help you to develop better self-esteem and be more effective and less defensive as a parent.

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This question with my response is not that unusual.I always tell parents that silifke eskort numaraları their love and involvement as parents are far more critical than giving children money and things.

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I’m having a hard time as a single parent with 8 and 12 year old children. I just feel so small when comparing myself to parents of friends of my children. As a single parent, I don’t make much money compared to most of them and feel so much pressure to give my children all the clothes and things other kids have. I even have part time job I do at home. I know they love me and we are very close. I love them so much and go to all their events. But I feel small. What can I do? If it weren’t for the financial support of my father, things would even be worse.

Answer

You need to be your own best friend and praise yourself for being a loving mother who goes to all the events of her children. Even with millions of dollars and great power, you could not always “keep up with the Joneses”. If you try, there will always be someone with more money, a bigger and more unique house, a prettier face, a better figure, children with better grades who are better athletes and have more sought-after friends. This is the result of much fruitless competition. The loving relationship you and your two children have is unique and no one else can have one just like it. And there can never be too much love between children and parents. Without picking on any of the people you are comparing yourself with, suffice it to say that all the energy that goes into competing with others often ends up causing feelings of depression and low self-esteem. The irony is that you cannot see the insecurity and doubt that those who “compete with others” experience everyday. They must always appear “perfect” and also look over their shoulders to see who is gaining on them, and eventually, they must be unhappy because they cannot compete “with the Joneses” in one or more of the areas they are competing. These ongoing self-imposed pressures detract from developing the type of familial love you want to grow among you and your children.
Too often in our society, we have replaced our greatest wealth, love for each other, with material goods and pricey privileges. They lack the human qualities we need to nurture and grow. In effect, they are only money-related. I am not negating the importance of nice things and the benefits that come from good income. My point is that the most important thing in life, such as family love and the resulting mutual respect, are truly free and we can have as much as we can give and receive. Things on the earth perish but love goes from one generation to the next. Be proud of the relationship you have with your children and build on it. Do not deceive yourself and sell yourself short. Seek in yourself and family the love and respect we all need as humans. That you are doing this is wonderful and it must continue to be your priority. When you think of yourself, replace the word “small” with “loving”. You will feel so much better.

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The following facts on Eating Disorders may be of interest.Most people are not aware how dangerous and common konya merkez escort they are.
1. 2-3% of young woman have Bulimia.
2. 1% of young women have Anorexia Nervosa.
3. 5-15% of Bulimia and Anorexia Nervosa are men. Most are women.
4. 3-4% of the general population are binge eaters.
5. 1000 or more young women die in the U.S. each year due to Anorexia Nervosa.
6. 20% of person die of a serious Eating Disorder if not treated.
7. 2-3% die when treated.
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This situation is very typical with divorced parents when children put one parent against the other to get what they want.Fortunately, the parents in this kocasinan bayan numaraları situation decided to work together. Divorced parents must not let their anger at each other lead to bad parenting. My DVD and CD set entitled: “Divorce: Coping and Overcoming It” could be helpful if the effects of your divorce are negatively impacting on your parenting or other painful aspects of divorce.

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My ex-husband and I usually cannot agree on anything. But now, we’ve finally agreed our ten year old daughter is lying to each of us to get what she wants. Fortunately, I happened to be with my wonderful ex-mother-in-law when I told my daughter I would not buy her a bike until she treated me with more respect and cleaned up her room. She told her father I said I hated her and would never buy her a bike. Of course, he went right out and bought her the bike. My mother-in-law found out what happened and told him the truth. He actually called me and said we have to get along better or this type of thing will keep happening. He hasn’t wanted to talk about this very type of situation in the past. I can try, but I don’t trust him. What do you think?

Answer

There are few bigger problems resulting from a divorce than a child playing one parent against the other. It not only causes great emotional distress to both parents but further destroys what is often an emotionally raw and explosive relationship. If this type of situation continues, the worst casualty will be your daughter. She will not only learn to manipulate each of you to her own advantage, but will not care about the hurt and anger she causes. It will be the classic example of the end justifying the means. If these manipulative behaviors carry over to relationships outside the home, the eventual emotional damage to your daughter and everyone who has personal interactions with her can predictably be great. Even though difficult because of previous interactions between the two of you, you two must effectively interact at least in relation to her. Try to have your mutual love for her be the key factor to unite you. Do not let your distrust for each other destroy the emotional health of all three of you. Since both of you seem to trust your ex-mother-in-law, maybe she can help you communicate better. You both need to talk to your daughter jointly and let her know you will not accept her lying to either of you. Use the bike as a beginning. Take the bike away from her if this has not already happened and only let her have it when she tells the truth over a period of time and generally does what you desire. It is a reasonable standard for a child to be respectful in order to receive something special from parents.
Hopefully this situation will not only help your daughter but lead to civil communication between you and her father at least in relation to her.

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The following column is a response to a question about persons who have Bariatric Surgery.I indicate in my extensive experiences in doing Bariatric Evaluations that there are persons who have been sexually abused, but that anamur eskort kızlar would not at all be the main reason persons have the surgery. This is often a last health resort for obese persons having many physical problems.

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A friend and I have been discussing if childhood sexual abuse is the major reason most people have Bariatric Surgery. What do you think?

Answer

Interestingly, a physician recently asked me this question. I randomly checked fifteen Bariatric evaluations on persons I have done and found only one who had been sexually abused. In the four Bariatric Evaluations I have done in the past few weeks, I directly asked persons if they had been sexually abused. All said no. I talked to Mary Wolf, R.N., Bariatric Surgery Coordinator of the Ingham Regional Weight Management, and she also has not found childhood sexual abuse to be the major reason most people have Bariatric Surgery. Even though other psychologists and Bariatric Centers could have higher percentages, my personal experience and those as reported at Ingham Regional Weight Management would not show childhood sexual abuse to be the major reason persons seek Bariatric Surgery.
Please get back with me if you find data different that this. I hope this information will be helpful. As s general rule, I find most persons seeking Bariatric surgery are basically good people who have lost control of their weight and their obesity is a major threat to their health.

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The following response to a question to me is typical of concerns of persons who try to lose weight and fail over and over again.The key factor kocasinan bayan numaraları is to change how we see ourselves. My CD set, “Liberate Yourself from Weight Gain”, could help you lose weight if you are on a diet and recognize the changes you must make in yourself in order to weigh what you desire.

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I’m constantly asking myself why I’m fat. I want to weigh less but I won’t stop eating. Is it that I’m lazy, have no discipline or what?

Answer

Let us begin by saying that weight loss requires a change in our attitude about how we see ourselves. This a key point learned in the years I have worked with people to help them with weight loss and with the few hundred assessments I have done as part of the Bariatric surgery process. To be lazy, lack discipline or any other reasons you think you cannot lose weight are simply symptoms that prove you have not changed the way you see yourself in relation to weight loss.
It is critical to weight loss to recognize that until you change the way you eat, live and see yourself that you cannot lose the weight you desire.

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The following question sent to me is typical of concerns parents have about their children taking medication.As you can see, I believe to ask your doctor questions is karatay escort the right thing to do. Doctors actually are usually happy to answer good questions to be helpful.

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I’m not sure what to do about medication and my son. My doctor at times recommends over the counter medications and prescriptions. My concern relates to all kinds of questions about the medicines. Should I feel funny asking them to our doctor? What about over- the-counter medications? What should I ask?

Answer

You have every right to ask your doctor about medicines, whether over-the-counter or prescriptions, as they relate to your child. In fact, to not do so is a bad decision. You must be knowledgeable about what negative side effects might occur. That is the job of an effective parent. You also can read about the medicines and talk to your pharmacist. Questions to ask would be as follows?

1. What is the purpose of the drug?
2. How does it interact with other medications my child is taking?
3. When and how much of the medicine does my child take every day?
4. How long will my child need the medication?
5. What are the side effects I need to be aware of?
6. Where should the medications be placed?
7. How quickly does the medication take effect?
8. What should I do if we miss a dose?

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This question/answer column presents an increasingly common problem situation in the United States at this time.Some children stay home because of emotional safety and security, economic reasons and a myraid konya merkez bayan arkadaş of other reasons. Hopefully, my response will be helpful to some of you.

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My husband and I have the odd situation of a twenty-nine year old son living with us who has graduated from college, has a good job but chooses not to move out. He loves his family and we’re glad to have him with us but wonder if we should push him to leave. His older sister and my sister and brothers feel he needs to go and we should push the issue for his sake. They feel he needs to date more and see other people. He knows this and it bothers him. In a moment of candor, he admitted he’s insecure and feels secure and happy when living with us and would rather not move. What should we do?

Answer

This is not a simple “keep him” or “kick him out”. While the majority of Americans might tell you to ease him out, any experienced therapist will tell you of the many lonely patients they work with, both parents and children, who are alone and depressed and feel rejected by their families. The love you all share is not a gift to be taken lightly.
It also is true that “conventional wisdom”, such as suggested by his relatives, is not always right. Your son appears well balanced emotionally and happy living with you. From the view point of family disintegration in modern America, your relationship is a triumph for families.
The only “red flag” is that he told you he is insecure. To make him leave would not necessarily develop security; in fact, it could have the opposite results.
It would be wise for you and your husband to meet with your son and discuss his “insecurity”. If you determine he is living with you out of fear of being alone and dealing with normal problems of adult life on his own, then you might try to help him to gradually move out.
You three do not appear to be in a co-dependent relationship where each of you is dependent on the other and stunted emotional growth is the result.
It could be helpful for your son to see a therapist experienced in anxiety disorders to see if he has any anxiety problems. If he does, they could be remediated with counseling and/or medication to ease his tension and help allow him to make his choices more freely.
It also is possible you have an adult son and family member who wants to live with his parents and regularly see his family until he meets someone to marry. This is common in many cultures. For one example, the traditional Italian-American culture often encourages unmaried children to stay home until they are married. Who has not heard an Italian-America son say, “No one makes pasta like mama”.
Whatever decision you make needs to be made by the three of you with open discussion and decision making. You can listen to others, but the choice is yours.

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The following question is my response to a person about weight loss and what you need to believe before you can have long-term success.Never forget you can only be who you believe you deserve to silifke eskort numaraları be. The specific weight loss plan you choose is secondary to this key belief.

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I am fat and always seem to lose interest in following my diet after a week or two. My husband says I need to lose weight for me and my problem is that I donÕt like myself and being fat is how I see myself. What do you think?

Response

I agree with your husband. Healthy diets with good nutritious foods in reasonable portions along with exercise will help you lose weight. The problem so many people have is that they cannot visualize themselves at a reasonable weight and their low self-esteem screams at them that they are fat. The result is that they cannot get theses ideas out of their mind. Then when they do lose weight, they gain it back and the cycle continues. This is why 90% of persons over 40 that lose weight gain it back. I believe this is happening to you.
You need to not only stick to a good diet with exercise, but need to visualize yourself at a healthy weight for you. The key is to believe you deserve to be a healthy person. Say this to yourself over and over again and you will over time begin to believe it. Why not begin today? My weight loss program, “Liberate Yourself From Weight Gain”, could be helpful to you to meet your personal growth and weight loss goals. However, the key is that you believe you can lose weight and deserve it.

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A recent study has shown that the number of teenagers using prescription drugs is increasing.I was sought mersin anamur escort bayanları out to discuss substance abuse and asked questions about the rising abuse of prescription drugs by teenagers. This is clearly a growing problem that parents and other concerned persons need to resolve. This edited transcript of my interview, that was done on 2/17/07 with WLNS-TV, Channel 6, is presented here. Even though not the same, you might find my Brownbag CD entitled, “Teenage Smoking: Help Your Child Say No”, helpful. WLNS-TV CHANNEL 6 NEWS REPORT ON FEBRUARY 17, 2007

Question

How much of an increase are we seeing with teenagers using prescription drugs?

Response

We see it consistently in Michigan and across the country. As they become more and more accessible, teenagers use them more and more. They go through medicine cabinets and unfortunately take and use prescription drugs.

Question

Do teenagers believe this might be a safer way to get high rather than using street drugs?

Response

Most teenagers probably aren’t thinking too much about what is safer. At their ages, they too often feel they are immortal. To some, it certainly is easier to get prescription drugs in the bathroom rather than buying drugs on the street. Some do feel it is safer because they know it is a prescription drug. “I’m taking Oxycontin or Vicodin. They couldn’t be anything like Opium”. While of course, they are all part of the same family. So I think a lot of time there is naivety on the part of teenagers about the true dangers of prescription drugs. Others probably see them as easily obtained drugs that do what they want at no cost to them.

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What should parents look out for?

Response

First of all, keep track of what medications you have and how much you have. For example, if you are taking Vicodin for pain and you start noticing some are missing, then there is clearly a problem that you need to do something about. Putting locks on medicine cabinets or putting prescription drugs in places inaccessible to the teenagers is critical. You must limit the accessibility. If you are losing weight, you do not put ice cream and chocolate in front of you or leave out alcohol in front of the alcoholic. If you have a teenager who you believe is abusing prescription drugs, you must not be a part of the problem. After you end availability of the drugs, the next step is to get any necessary substance abuse treatment for your child. Children need to know how a combination of drugs, prescription or street, can lead to death or serious injury.

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The following column is a response to a question written by a person deciding whether or not to have Bariatic Surgery to help deal with what appears to be health threatening obesity.My advise to silifke escort ilanları her is to make sure she has all the information available as part of the process of determining whether she is a good candidate for the surgery. I advised her to follow her own heart and mind.

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Dr. Braccio:  I’m very obese and have given up trying to lose weight with diets. My heart, blood pressure, arthritis, sleep apnea cholesterol and knee joints are all going kaput. I’m considering “Baratric Surgery” with the strong support of my family doctor, cardiologist, husband, children and sister. My problem is that my co-workers tell me this is stupid and my mother says she would never do such a thing. What should I do?

Answer

You need to do what you feel is right If you have researched the surgery and the possible risks and determined the benefits outweigh the negatives, then go forward with the evaluation process to determine if you are a good candidate for this surgery. To have the support of your family doctor, cardiologist, husband, children and sister is very positive.

I am aware of few serious complications resulting from the Bariatric Surgery in the approximately 250 Bariatric Psychological Assessments I have done over the years. The positive results have often been amazing for those who enter the surgery fully aware of the whole process and effectively carry through with appropriate aftercare. This is not to minimize possible problems but to put them in perspective.

As a final comment, this is a personal choice that only you can make. Take advice but follow your own heart and head when making a final decision.

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Weight gain and weight loss continue to be huge issues among most of us. The following question/response sent to me will hopefully give you a few helpful ideas on weight loss.

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Dr. Braccio:  A friend let me borrow your CD set on Weight Loss, “Free Yourself From Weight Gain” Program and it has been very helpful.I use the hypnosis CD every day silifke eskort numaraları and I periodically go over the information CD. My problem is that even though I stick to a diet most of time and am losing weight, I can’t seem to remember what I’ve eaten on some days when I think about it at the end of the day. What should I do? I’m committed to losing weight.

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The positive thing is that you are losing weight. The problem is you need a daily journal to keep track of what you eat. It is wise to plan before the day begins what you will eat on a daily basis to eliminate surprises and losing track of your calorie intake. As you know, my concern is not what diet you are on just as long as it is healthy and family doctor supported. I have known many people over the years who have lost weight with various weight plans. The keys are to do daily exercise, eat nutritiously and control food and calorie intake to the level that you will weigh what you desire.

You need to exercise daily. It is as critical as food intake to exercise daily. There are some written materials that I include with my “Liberate Yourself From Weight Gain” program that you can borrow from the person who loaned you my set. For now, a simple daily chart to help you with your diet on a daily basis would include the following: 1. Daily desired food intake. 2. Calories, fat grams, carbs, proteins and fiber taken in each day with totals for each. 3. Include everything you eat at meals and snacks. 4. Included will be eight glasses of liquids including water, juices milk and soup. 7. I suggest you weight yourself daily and have a starting your diet weight with your ongoing weight.

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I hope this Newsletter finds you well and surviving the Winter wherever you may be.This Newletter is about helping teenagers who anamur eskort bayan have substance abuses but want to end them and I have been asked to help out. My advice in my column below is from a question asked of me and that my answer is that you only enter into such a relationship with great caution or you will get hurt emotionally.

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Dr. Braccio:  My sister and nephew have asked my husband and me if we would let him live with us the end of this summer and next school year. If we can, we would like to help him and my sister. He will be in the 11th grade. He was fine until problem signs occurred in October. Then his grades began falling in school as he was using primarily pot but also some cocaine. He has been in treatment and has tested clean the past 2 1/2 months. Due to a late academic surge, he will pass this school year. He wants to come here for a change of environment. He and his mother have encouraged us to talk to his school counselor, school principal and substance abuse therapist who works with him in group therapy. We love him and would like to help him. Our kids are out of the home and we can take him in. We want to help but are worried. Should we let him live with us?

Answer

This is not a simple “yes” or “no” answer.

The positive factors are that he apparently has changed, you love him, want to help him and your sister, and he has asked to come to have a new opportunity.
The negative factors are that he has been on drugs, chaos would occur if he were to use them again, it could be difficult for him to adapt to a new environment, you will need to find a trained therapist in substance abuse for him, become aware of symptoms of substance abuse, and adapt to a new person in your home.

Prior to saying “yes”, I would suggest you talk to the school counselor, and school principal if need be, to determine how they feel about your nephew and the overall situation. Do they believe he will stay off drugs as well as be able to adapt to living in a new home environment?

Maybe most important, you need to talk to the therapist who runs the substance abuse group he is a part. Find out his/her professional opinion as to how your nephew is doing emotionally, if he could adapt to a new home environment, and if he/she believes he may go back to drugs.

If your nephew does come to live with you, obtaining and trying to implement the recommendations of the substance abuse therapist and school persons could be critical to your success.

If the principal, counselor, or substance abuse therapist have any doubts as to whether he will stay off drugs, I would suggest you and your husband not have him live with you.

While this may seem harsh, the pain would be too great for both of you if he were to live with you and go back to using illegal substances. It would be another defeat for him and would in all probability destroy your relationship with him for some time, and quite possibly permanently.

The key thing is that the probability of success must be very high for the sake of everyone involved.

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“What if” scenarios are one of the great causes of Human Anxiety.We need to anamur bayan escort relax, look at reasonable outcomes and not worry ourselves sick. The following Question/Answer can be helpful to you or someone you love overcome the torture of “what if” scenarios.

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I admit to being a “what if” mom. I worry about everything even though nothing really bad happens to me, my husband or our three children. I feel I put too much pressure on my family to make sure everything is done right and safely. I also resent that my husband and children don’t worry like I do. My main concern is that my daughter is going to be driving on her own this summer. I’m a basket case, which is making her, her younger brothers, and my husband all upset with me. They all say she is capable of driving and is a responsible person. They feel I’m overreacting, as always. Maybe that’s true, but I worry she’ll be killed in an accident. I also won’t know what she’s doing because I won’t be driving her around. I’m probably overly concerned but can’t stop “what if-ing”. What can I do?

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You need to back off. If your daughter is responsible, and she seems to be, then driving alone is an activity she can do with appropriate training and after reaching the legal age. As for your constant worrying, try giving yourself an hour of worry time each day, combating your “what if ” thoughts with positive affirmation non-worry thoughts. If you still cannot cope, you should seek help from a therapist experienced with anxiety issues. To “what if” every situation is really a torturous condition. The anxiety that results from the worry does not allow you to enjoy the present. Right how your present is full of anxiety. Remember all your worrying will never change a thing. You’re better off educating your children so they can make good decisions when problems arise. Use your energy to make sure your daughter is fully prepared to drive and could do it without the unnecessary pressure of your dramatic worrying at home. This could cause her to be an anxious driver and this could be dangerous. Another issue here seems to be a premature dress rehearsal for the “empty nest syndrome”. This is natural stage of the weaning process that begins when our children first are let out of our sight. You need to see her driving as a necessary step in her developing autonomy in life. Of course, you need to make sure she is well prepared and drives as you desire. A positive aspect to your daughter’s driving is the autonomy and responsibility it will help her develop. It also allows you to use the car as a tool to encourage appropriate behavior in your daughter. The privilege of driving the car can be a great incentive for better grades, getting a job and doing regular chores. To stop “what if-ing” will be very difficult for you. The pattern of thinking seems well-ingrained. The important thing is for you to enjoy the present. Prepare for problems but enjoy the joys of everyday living with a loving and caring family.

My Program on “Panic Attacks: Stop Them Now!” and various of my Brownbag CD Programs could be helpful if this is a problem for you.

My Program on “Panic Attacks: Stop Them Now!” and various of my Brownbag CD Programs could be helpful if this is a problem for you.

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Parents regularly call me and meet with me because of problems with their children.It is important mersin eskort to know that the best of parents have problems with teaching responsibility to their children. This is a response to a question to me about children learning responsibility.

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Dr. Braccio:  Even though our 9 and 10 year old children are usually polite and helpful to others, they don’t have a sense of responsibility in our home. We have to ask them to do what we want until we’re blue in the face. They behave as if we’re torturing them when we ask them to help out in the house. Whether it’s cleaning their rooms, which sometimes look like a tornado hit them, or taking out the trash, they have no initiative to help. Sometime we do it ourselves just to avoid an argument. What did we do wrong? What can we do to develop a sense of responsibility in them? We hope it’s not too late.

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You have not created a home where your children are expected to do what you want. It is never too late to start developing responsibility in children, though, it simply makes it harder when you start when they are 9 and 10.
The fact they “are usually polite and helpful to others” is positive and how they simply need to learn to be responsible at home.

Responsibility does not just happen. It’s important for the two of you to demonstrate responsibility. Also, your expectations should be age-appropriate. It would be helpful to have a predictable daily and weekly list of chores. To help remind your children, put the list in a prominent place, such as on the refrigerator door.

Praise and encourage them when they do what you expect, and have appropriate and consistent punishment when they do not. Privileges, allowances and other special family benefits need to be withheld when they are not meeting their home responsibilities.

It is important that they not only know what is expected of them, but most importantly, why it is important they develop a sense of responsibility. This may be a hard sell initially, but with patience and persistence they will become responsible.

The goal is for them to take ownership of what they must do. Even though you are starting late, begin right away and move with confidence. You will succeed in developing a sense of home responsibility in them if you do not waver in your age- appropriate expectations.

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Hope your New Year is going well.Happy New Year Everyone!
We made it through Christmas and the Holiday Period and the New Year begins!

An easy plan is to put a smile on your face and say konya merkez bayan arkadaş hello to at least one new person a day. So many people are lonely in our world. You can brighten up the life of so many people this year just by saying hello. It will also make you feel better as you realize you are helping others.

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