Hello Everyone!
I hope this Newsletter finds you well and surviving the Winter wherever you may be.This Newletter is about helping teenagers who anamur eskort bayan have substance abuses but want to end them and I have been asked to help out. My advice in my column below is from a question asked of me and that my answer is that you only enter into such a relationship with great caution or you will get hurt emotionally.
Question
Dr. Braccio: My sister and nephew have asked my husband and me if we would let him live with us the end of this summer and next school year. If we can, we would like to help him and my sister. He will be in the 11th grade. He was fine until problem signs occurred in October. Then his grades began falling in school as he was using primarily pot but also some cocaine. He has been in treatment and has tested clean the past 2 1/2 months. Due to a late academic surge, he will pass this school year. He wants to come here for a change of environment. He and his mother have encouraged us to talk to his school counselor, school principal and substance abuse therapist who works with him in group therapy. We love him and would like to help him. Our kids are out of the home and we can take him in. We want to help but are worried. Should we let him live with us?
Answer
This is not a simple “yes” or “no” answer.
The positive factors are that he apparently has changed, you love him, want to help him and your sister, and he has asked to come to have a new opportunity.
The negative factors are that he has been on drugs, chaos would occur if he were to use them again, it could be difficult for him to adapt to a new environment, you will need to find a trained therapist in substance abuse for him, become aware of symptoms of substance abuse, and adapt to a new person in your home.
Prior to saying “yes”, I would suggest you talk to the school counselor, and school principal if need be, to determine how they feel about your nephew and the overall situation. Do they believe he will stay off drugs as well as be able to adapt to living in a new home environment?
Maybe most important, you need to talk to the therapist who runs the substance abuse group he is a part. Find out his/her professional opinion as to how your nephew is doing emotionally, if he could adapt to a new home environment, and if he/she believes he may go back to drugs.
If your nephew does come to live with you, obtaining and trying to implement the recommendations of the substance abuse therapist and school persons could be critical to your success.
If the principal, counselor, or substance abuse therapist have any doubts as to whether he will stay off drugs, I would suggest you and your husband not have him live with you.
While this may seem harsh, the pain would be too great for both of you if he were to live with you and go back to using illegal substances. It would be another defeat for him and would in all probability destroy your relationship with him for some time, and quite possibly permanently.
The key thing is that the probability of success must be very high for the sake of everyone involved.
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