Question
Dr.Braccio: While I’ve never been accused of being overly positive, konya merkez escort kızlar I feel very positive when compared with my thirteen year old daughter and fourteen year old son. Their lives are generally good, but they’re negative on so much in life. Friends say that’s what kids are like now-a-days. Do you agree? What can I do? We need some things to do to make us more positive.
Answer
I do not agree. In spite of the constant drumbeat of negative news and commercialism in which we live, everyone, including teenagers, can be positive.
Begin by simply always seeking something positive in whatever event occurs. For example, in the national tragedy of 9/11, even a year later, it is hard to hold back tears or not be overwhelmed with pulsating emotion when seeing or hearing of everyday people like you and me who gave up or risked their lives so that others might live.
Try to model a positive outlook. Parental modeling is very powerful. Children often think and behave like we do.
One of the most underdeveloped abilities we have is to determine what we will think about. This determines how we perceive life. For example, if there were ten books on a shelf that tell all experiences of your life, how negative and unproductive to only read the one book about your defeats. It is amazing how many people do this. You and your children need to focus on positive thoughts and images.
While we must be realistic, you and your children need to find the positive in life. Those who have “a song in their heart” are so much happier than those who sing a sad song saluting everything negative in life.
Happiness is a choice. You need to see happiness as the trip through life and not some distant goal. To raise respectful and loving children to be adults is a wonderful achievement, but what a wondrous ride it is to be the parents helping mold the children into effective human begins.
Even though an overused phrase, it is true that “we are what we think”. When we are trying to be positive and good persons, the response to an old rhyme: “Mirror, mirror on the wall who is the fairest of them all’, must be “you”. Find the positive in yourself and build on it.
The following are some positive things you and your children might try to use to be more positive;
1. Look for solutions in life rather than problems.
2. Exercise.
3. Read for enjoyment and also to expand your mind.
4. Help someone every day.
5. Try something new.
6. Think of a positive new way of looking at some aspect of your life every day.
7. Focus on the positive aspects of your life.
8. Remember happy moments in your life.
9. Remember bad experiences to learn from them but not to punish yourself in the present by constantly reliving these memories.
10. Remember the home runs of your life and not the strike outs.
11. Do a loving thing daily for a friend or family member.
12. As appropriate for you, seek spiritual support to give more meaning to life.
13. Enjoy the road of life. The only time we have for sure is “now”. Make every second count.