STRATEGIES TO OVERCOME THE TOXIC EFFECTS OF AN ABUSIVE AND TOXIC PARENT

STRATEGIES TO OVERCOME THE TOXIC EFFECTS OF AN ABUSIVE AND TOXIC PARENT

here are few things worse than being a child of a punitive,hypercritical, unloving, domineering, self-absorbed, threatening, and even physically abusive parent.  Outcomes to the human psyche are very painful and are often present the rest of the person’s life. Unfortunately,outcomes include boundary problems, low self-esteem, lack of love for self,bending to what others want,attachment issues, high anxiety,severe depression and an inability to develop equal 50-50 relationships. Strategies to overcome the toxic effects of a toxic parent would include the following:  1.Develop a strong spiritual sense of appropriate self-love and self-respect. 2.Replace  negative thoughts with positive ones.  3.Recognize self as a strong person not willing to allow the parental bully from the past to still bully you.  4.Conduct  a burial for all the negative views of self resulting from the bad or even evil  behaviors of the psychologically destructive bully parent. 5.Conduct a ritual washing of your hands or hair in a matter symbolic of ending the bully influences from the past in your current life.  It is a present-day washing similar to Pontius Pilate to not be willing to accept  responsibility for the despicable bully tactics of a toxic parent in the past.  6.  Write out feelings on an ongoing basis  to desensitize you to the abuse you suffered and a recognition of how small and even evil a parent was who would bully and abuse you as a child…I will personally say it is hard to imagine how a parent can abuse a child. The mere thought of a parent abusing  an innocent child brought into the world who deserved love and protection is to often a sad reality Fortunately,many brave persons do overcome the effects of a childhood toxic parent to enjoy the present with great hopes for the future.

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