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    KEEPING YOUR SANITY AND PATIENCE DURING THE CORONAVIRUS CRISIS IN YOUR HOME/APARTMENT

    1.Work on tolerance and patience for those around you. 2.Begin learning a new language or skill set. 3.Further develop your spiritual/moral self. 4.Watch movies,youtube and TV programs that  bring you joy and satisfaction. 5.Start a journal to leave a permanent record of what you were doing and thinking during the CORONAVIRUS CRISIS. 6.Learn the rules to games you may want to learn that you never learned. 7.Listen to music that is both uplifting and enjoyable. 8.Calm yourself with some combination of meditation,self-hypnosis,relaxation,deep breathing,yoga and pilates. 9.Call family and friends,old and new,to be uplifting for you and them. 10.Moderately  play computer and non-computer games. 11.Use the internet to find things of interest to help with potential boredom. 12.Read that book you were going to read or reread right now. 13.Family projects. 14.Do whatever is helpful to you during  this difficult period.

     

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    MAKE THANKSGIVING A SUPER SPECIAL DAY BY BEING GRATEFUL

    Dr. Braccio speaks with Dave Akerly of WILS 1320 AM on the Morning Wake-Up w/Dave Akerly. For simplification, Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks for what we have in our lives. Regardless of whatever problems we have, we must set them aside and search our inner being for giving thanks. It can range from the air we breathe to great family, friendship and/or love we have now or have experienced in our lives. It is a day to not consider all areas of conflict, anger and disputes. As a musical thought, a good song  for Thanksgiving is LOOK FOR THE SILVER LINING from a recording Mario Lanza did nearly 70 years ago.

     

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    Be Kind and Reach Out To Others During The Christmas Holiday Period

    One need not be a psychologist to see that this time of year is very hard for a lot of people emotionally.  Sadly, Christmas and New Year’s celebrations along with any other celebrated holidays remind silifke eskort ilanları many people of happier times.  Since then, many family members may have grown apart, developed into separate units or simply lost interest in the concept of family or your part in it.  There also are problems of divorce, separation, death and distance from loved ones that keep people apart.  Television and concerts bombard us daily with the joys of Christmas.

     For those of us who have loving and caring family and friends near us at this time, the following are a few things to do to make life happier for you and help others who may not be as happy at this joyous time for millions.

     1.  Give a smile and a friendly hello to people.  This can make a person’s day.  We sometimes forget this is often a time of personal isolation even in a crowd of people.

    2.  Call relatives and friends that may be alone, away from loved ones, grieving the loss of loved ones or just having a hard time emotionally.  Let them know you care.

    3.  Invite persons and relatives to holiday events who you know are alone and would greatly appreciate it.

    4.  Invite someone to breakfast or lunch you feel it could be helpful.

    5.  Volunteer at church and/or community events as possible.

    6.  If a Christian, focus on the birth of Christ and his message of love and forgiveness.  To give and receive reasonable gifts for Christmas is nice but we must not lose track of what Christmas represents.

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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    Betting: It’s Not Worth the Gamble

    Question

    Dr.Braccio:  My sister silifke eskort numaraları is devastated.  Her daughter has left her husband at least temporarily with her two children to live with her because her husband has a gambling addiction and has thrown their money to the wind.  She found out his gambling was far worse than she ever imagined.  Video poker is what controls him and he won’t stop.  I even loaned him some money to be helpful for a project he said he was working on.  I now find out he lied to me and has borrowed from everyone and is broke.  He also is on the way to losing his job.  He sometimes misses work by spending hours in front of the computer.  This seems so stupid.  I have a mind to meet with him and try to talk some sense into him.  My niece has about given up with all his promises and lies to stop.  My sister says he has tried to stop but amazingly still thinks he can beat the system and win big.  What do you think?  What can I do?

     Answer

    I think your nephew is a pathological gambler in denial.  Gambling is seen as addictive as cocaine with similar consequences.  It is less understood and more hidden because there is no known substance like alcohol or other drugs.  The person is not using a needle or slurring his or her words.  But the devastation is as great as well as having a higher suicide rate.  It is an illness that one must do all that he or she can to overcome it.

    The biggest problem at present is his unwillingness to accept he has a gambling addiction and that he, like the alcoholic with drinking, must never gamble again.  Like all addictions, he chooses the euphoric highs that come periodically when he wins and wants them to return.  The dream of then returning is a poor compensation for the horrible lows when he is losing.  In the process his self-esteem is shattered by his lying and ever mounting losses.  In this horrible world, he continues to gamble with the dream of making it all back and winning bigger than ever.

    Even if he hits the “home run”, he would want more because of the highs and his desire for never ending highs.  Unless you experience it or have observed it, it is almost impossible to understand.  It is a horrible mental health illness and not just a lack of willpower.

    You can imagine the suffering the wife and children are feeling.  The sense of loss and abandonment.  You and your sister are also having horrible feelings as I am sure are other family members.

    At this point, there is little you or anyone else can do for him until he decides he has an addiction and he needs help to overcome it.  Progress can then occur.

    Above all, do not give him money.  That would go right back into gambling and feed his addiction.  If he calls, talk to him respectfully and be honest with him about how you feel, but do not accept statements at face value if he says he is done gambling.

    Based on his needs, when he accepts his addiction, he will need treatment by a trained therapist, group therapy, residential placement, involvement with a group such as Gamblers Anonymous or some combination.  Medication could help with a diagnosis of Depression, Anxiety, etc.

    You can try to become as knowledgeable as possible on the gambling addiction to help you understand what is happening with him and what a family can do when everyone tries to be a support.  The internet has a lot of information under compulsive gambling or any bookstore would have or could order you a book on the topic.

    The Michigan Department of Community Health has a 24 hour hotline (800) 270-7117 for people who have a gambling addition or those who know someone who does.  You can go to the Gamblers Anonymous website at www.gamblersanonymous.org to gain some very helpful information.  A related support group for you and the family would be Gam-Anon and their website is www.gam.anon.org.  TheMichigan Hotline. (313) 792-2877, to find out where meetings are is the same for both places.

    There is a twenty-question page on the Gambler Anonymous website that is very instructive to the addicted gambler or someone like you trying to gain information.  The website says most compulsive gamblers will answer YES to at least seven of these questions.  You can see just on what you know now he would logically need to say yes to at least seven of them.  That he would not or would deny the significance shows the level of his addiction.  Until he can do that, there is not much you or anyone else can do for him.  That is the sad truth.

    The questions are as follows:
    1.    Did you ever lose time from work or school due to gambling?

    2.    Has gambling ever made your home life unhappy?

    3.    Did gambling affect your reputation?

    4.    Have you ever felt remorse after gambling?

    5.    Did you ever gamble to get money with which to pay debts or otherwise  solve financial difficulties?

    6.    Did gambling cause a decrease in your ambition or efficiency?

    7.    After losing, did you feel you must return as soon as possible and win back your losses?

    8.    After a win, did you have strong urge to return and win more?

    9.    Did you often gamble until your last dollar was gone?

    10.  Did you ever borrow to finance your gambling?

    11.  Have you ever sold anything to finance gambling?

    12.  Were you reluctant to use “gambling money” for normal expenditures?

    13.  Did gambling make you careless of the welfare of yourself or your family?

    14.  Did you ever gamble longer than you had planned?

    15.  Have you ever gambled to escape worry or trouble?

    16.  Have you ever committed or considered committing, an illegal act to finance gambling?

    17.  Did gambling cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?

    18.  Do arguments, disappointments or frustration create within you an urge to gamble?

    19.  Did you ever have an urge to celebrate any good fortune by a few hours of  gambling?

    20.  Have you ever considered self-destruction or suicide as a result of your gambling?

    Any questions or comment would be appreciated.

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    Even The Tiniest of Lies Disrupts Family

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     Dr.Braccio:  My husband and I believe anamur bayan escort honesty is the most important quality to judge a person by.  Our ten and twelve year old children are generally truthful but do lie a bit about completing chores as we request and completing their homework.  They try to minimize the lies and we probably maximize them.  What do you think?

     Answer

    I believe that “honesty is the best policy”.  I also agree with you about the importance of honesty.  In fact, the stature of a person is greatly diminished if we cannot believe what they say.

    You cannot maximize the inappropriateness of lying.  Persons can only be judged by their integrity; and honesty is the core element.

    As parents, we must model honesty and demand it of our children.  To do otherwise is ineffective parenting and ultimately will hurt their relationships with others.  Let them know the punishment will be far more severe for lying than for whatever they did not do.

    Do not listen to those who say all children lie about such things and to ignore it.  To do that is both ineffective parenting and an invitation to add new areas to lie about.  Lying is flat out unacceptable in a home and everywhere else.

    Human nature is such that if one does not stop negative behaviors, they become ingrained into our personalities.  It also is true that lying is easy to develop and deceptively hard to eliminate.     You simply need to think of liars you know that even though their lying hurts or destroys their relationship with others, they persist in their self-defeating behaviors.

    “To lie” is not a trait one wants because the end result is have no true friends and low self-esteem.  Friendship, love, spirituality, and a healthy marriage are impossible for persons who lie to each other.

    A problem the best of parents seems to have is to decide which lies are important and not important.  Live by the rule that all lies are important and unacceptable.

    Even if we live in an age where lying under certain circumstances is seen as acceptable, let your home be a place where honesty thrives and grows so your children can be models of honesty for themselves and their peers.

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    Middle School Transition Requires Studious Habits

     

    Question 

    Dr.Braccio:  My son is going to karatay bayan escort the middle school next year.  He’s well liked, fairly disorganized, and basically an average student without much effort.  His teacher is worried he’ll get lost in the middle school without being better organized and looking after himself without as much teacher support.  She also says he’s not working near his potential.  I agreed but am aware I’ve never done much to push him at all and have been happy with his average grades.  Now I’m worried and want some advice to help him do better next year.  His father and I are divorced but want the best for our son.  What do you suggest we do?

     Answer

     It is positive there is still time this school year to begin some of the suggestions I will make and that you and his father can work together to help him.

    His teacher is helpful to advise you that he needs to be more responsible for himself in middle school.  Many children have a rude awakening when they go from a nurturing elementary to a demanding middle school environment.

    The following are suggestions to help him now and in the future to prepare himself for school, achieve to his potential, and be responsible for his homework.

    1.  Specific study times at home each school evening and designated weekend time as you feel necessary.  2.  Turn off the TV, radio, electronic games, and other distractions during study time.  3.  Use a daily planner.  4.  Encourage him to do well and applaud his successes.  5.  Look at his effort grades on his report card before achievement.  How hard he is trying is more important than the grade.  6.  On a daily basis, review his assignments, daily planner and give support and direction as needed.  7.  If the need arises, make available academic support to overcome areas of underachievement.  At present, this does not appear to be an issue and hopefully will not become one.  8.  Make regular contact with his teachers to better determine how he is doing and if his planner is up to date and accurate.

    You will find as he becomes better organized and in a good learning routine that he will predictably take ownership for his academic performance and personal organization.  At that time, with your continued support and his ever greater success in school, he will on his own want to achieve to his potential.

    Your job as a parent is to give him the tools to use to do as well as he can consistent with his ability.  You appear ready to take on this role and I strongly support your efforts.

    Any questions or comments, please feel free to contact me directly.

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    Maximize Successes by Minimizing Time Spent on Past Failure

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     Dr.Braccio:  My seventeen year old daughter always seems to focus silifke escort ilanları on negatives.  She never thinks things will work out positively for her.  In spite of her many successes, she interviews for jobs badly and always feels proven right when she does not get the job or what she wants.  I also do this to some degree.  How can I help her?

     Answer

     Your daughter’s negative thoughts lead to a defeatist self-fulfilling prophecy where she fails because she is convinced she will.  Even though self-evident when you think about it, she highlights how outlooks shape what we achieve in life.  For example, one does not become a business leader by not wanting to work long hours or try to motivate and inspire other persons.

     I like to use the analogy of a bookcase with many books that encompasses all of one’s life.  Negative persons only read and reread the one book of all their failures in life.  Their successes in the many other books are ignored or minimized.  This appears to be what your daughter is doing.  It must stop now.

     The following are some suggestions to help your daughter be more positive.  It appears these suggestions could help you too.

     1.  Sensitively and directly tell your daughter her negative beliefs are creating her negative reality.  2.  Help her develop positive outlooks by use of a positive affirmation for every negative one she has.

    Examples would be as follows:   Negative – “I am a dummy and will never get anywhere in life”.  Positive – “I am intelligent and can realistically be what I want to be”.  Negative – “Things will turn out badly for me”.  Positive – “Things will turn out good for me because I plan and work hard”.   Negative – “I will never get the job because I interview so badly”.  Positive – “I will get the job by being positive and showing in the interview how much I want the job and what I can do”.  Negative – “I must focus on my failures to be a realist about my poor changes for success”.  Positive – “I must be positive and focus on my successes as I work hard to add new ones to the growing list”.   Negative – “I’m negative!”  Positive – “I’m positive!”   Negative – “Success is based on luck”.   Positive – ““Success is generally based on consistently good decisions over a period of time”.   Negative.  “I’m a loser!”   Positive – “I’m a winner!”

    We are what we think.  Our actions reflect our belief structure.  Your daughter thinks negatively in spite of what you call her “many successes”.  Help her focus on her successes as she works hard to add more to the list.

    Even though it will be hard to change her long ingrained negative beliefs, help her by following the suggestions above.  The “new her” will help her to see her successes as natural and normal.

     You might even try to change with your daughter in a joint project.  It would be not only be helpful but great fun.

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    Great-Nephew Needs Unconditional Love

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    Dr.Braccio:  Our 13 year old karatay bayan arkadaş great nephew has moved in with us from Illinois.  Our children are grown and out of the area.  He’s lost his parents and we’re his only family.  We didn’t know him well but took him in because we wanted to and there was no one else.  We could not bear to have him in foster care.  He’s a good boy but very shy.  The problem is that he’s almost too obedient to our wishes.  We’ve told him to feel comfortable with us but it’s like he’s afraid if he gets us upset we’ll make him leave.  He keeps saying he wants to do everything right and never be a bother to us.  What should we do?

     Answer

    Keep doing what you are doing.  He needs your unconditional love as the basis for him to develop a solid sense of security in your home.  He has obviously been through a lot.  When you consider he has lost his parents, left the city where he lived, lives with family he does not know well, obviously has never developed a solid base of security, and knows he lives with you due to your kindness, he probably is worried if he gets you upset or is “a bother to” you that you will make him leave.  That would be consistent with the type of rejection and loss he has apparently had in his life.

     The following are some things you can do to build his base of security with you:

    1  Have regular family discussions where you begin to develop the type of open communication you need.  He needs to know there is unconditional love in the home.

    2.  Do casual things like car rides, going to the movies, getting a pizza, etc. to simply have relaxing times together to develop a sense of loving family.  This can help open him up emotionally in a low key way.  Church and community activities could also be helpful.

    3.  Clearly identify what you find unacceptable and desired behaviors so there is no confusion on his part.

    4.  Give him applause and approval when he does what you feel is appropriate.

    5.  Reinforce to him that you took him into your home because you wanted to, that you plan to keep him, that you want him to feel secure, and most importantly, that you love him.

    6.  Let him know what you expect of him and that your standards are that he try to meet them rather than do “everything right” and “never be a bother”.  That attitude will only lead to anxiety and guilt.

    7.  Firmly and gently correct him when he does what you do not approve of but let him know you still love him and want him to live with you.  It does not appear he will ever be a major problem in the home.

    8.  Talk to the school counselor and let him/her know his circumstances.  Hopefully, there is some group with whom he could become involved.

    9.  Ask the counselor to seek out school and even community activities your great nephew can become involved in if he is not already.  His involvement with the counselor in a counseling relationship could also be helpful.

    10.  An experienced therapist in the community also might be helpful for him; and maybe for all of you.

     I personally think you two need to be commended for taking him into your home.  This shows love, a strong sense of family, and a desire to place the needs of someone in need ahead of your own.  In this too often “me first” age, it is very refreshing.  I feel your great nephew will do just fine in your home.  He seems like a fine young man.

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    It Isn’t Too Late To Be A Good Dad

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    Dr.Braccio:  I’ve not silifke eskort numaraları been a good father.  My seven and eight year old children care for me more than I deserve.  My parents and sister have taken up my parenting with my ex as I’ve been doing everything but looking after them.  My ex hates me but has wanted the children to think positively about me not for my sake but so they would not hate a parent.  Her respect for me is gone forever but I want to be what my children think I am but what I’m not.  My parents tell me to be a good parent and do my job.  What should I do?

    Answer

    You seem to want to be a good parent.  Follow your instincts and be one.  Their mother chose not to turn them against you.  You can be very grateful to her for this.  You also can be grateful your parents and sister took up your parenting job and chose not to turn them against you.    To be given a second is wonderful.

    Too often, even when with great justification, an angered ex-spouse uses all of his or her energy to destroy the relationship of the children with the other parent.  Forget what you have not been and focus all your energies into being a good parent.  Take this second chance with the zeal of a first time proud papa.  Even if your ex really despises you, slowly you may be able to turn this around by being a good parent.  Then you two can better work together for the sake of the   children.  But regardless of that, for now do your parenting job.

    The following are some key things to do:

     1.  Always show your children you love them by being there for them in an honest and loving manner.  2.  Go to their events and let them see the pride you have for them and their accomplishments.  3.  Be available to them when they desire or need you.  They need to know you will be there when they need you.  4.  Be available emotionally when they need a strong father to listen to them; and most importantly, give them good advice to help them in their lives.  Because you love your children, follow your heart when you give advice.  You will then be helpful to them and yourself in the role of a loving father.  5.  Show the ex and your family you have changed.  Let your parental actions over time do the talking for you.  6.  Make sure your ex and your family know how much you appreciate what they have done for the children and you will do your part.  7.  Make sure nothing or no one changes the direction of your goal to be a good parent.  You would not deserve a third chance if you fail again.  8.  Be excited about your future with your children.  Few things in life can match the joy of helping our children develop as loving and effective human beings.

    Any questions or comments would be appreciated.

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    Husband’s OK Isn’t Essential

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    Dr.Braccio:  I’m actually both hurt and escort mersin angry with my husband.  I can retire in four months and want to.  I’m worn out physically and mentally.  He can’t retire for four years and wants me to continue working.  He says we can save more money and retire at the same time.  When I told him we have enough money and I’m worn out, he yelled, “I’m worn out too but have to work and so should you”.  I’ve backed off but want to retire.  Our daughter feels he’s silly and jealous because I can retire and he can’t.  Our pastor, who has a lot of influence over him, says to be patient and hopefully he’ll change his mind.  He said he’ll help out if his views don’t change.  What do you think?

     Answer

    I agree you have the right to retire if you feel this is the time.  With that said, it would be helpful to the marriage if you two were in some type of agreement about your retirement.  However, under these circumstances, you need his understanding and not his permission.

    The problem is how to resolve this matter.  Ideally, your husband will think about it and come to the reasonable conclusion retirement is a good choice for you.  To continue working if you do not have to when you are “worn out physically and mentally” defies common sense.  It also puts you at needless risk for various physical and emotional problems.  For him to desire this for you reflects a lack of love and sensitivity for your needs.  For you to go along with him and continue working would give you such great anger and needless frustration.

    Without sounding harsh, there does appear to be an unfair quality to his desire that you continue working because he must.  That is like saying because you wear glasse, that he must wear them too.

    Even though it will be a hard decision for you because of his outlook, to retire when you can seems like the right thing to do.  To risk your emotional and physical health when you do not have to is not reasonable.  Your husband needs to accept this.

    If he will not change, you may find your pastor because of his influence, has the best opportunity to soften his heart.  Discussion and prayer can hopefully help solve the problem.

    Hopefully your husband will see what he asks of you is unfair, unreasonable and even selfish on his part.  If he does not change his mind and the pastor cannot help, you will retire knowing you did what was necessary and he will be angry and upset.  If so, he will need to cope with it and eventually get over it.  This may be one of those times when agreement is not possible.

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    Don’t Be Fenced In By Others’ Expectations

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     Dr.Braccio:  I recently returned to the area after earning a graduate degree and getting a very bayan escort mersin good job.  My problem is an odd one.  I’ve found a women full of love and very loving whom I’ve been dating that I’ve fallen in love with.  The problem is my family and two best friends are advising me not to be with her.  She has two small children, is divorced and is just in her first year of college.  They say I could do much better and it’s silly to take on the burden of the two children.  The problem is I love the children and love her.  I also know they love and need me.  Together, we’re special.  They treat me wonderfully.  Even though I think it is difficult for the children, I feel it’s positive for me that the father has no involvement and doesn’t even live in Michigan while my family and friends feel this just puts more pressure on me.  I see it as a opportunity to help these wonderful children that the father has foolishly disowned.  What do you think?  Marriage may be in our future.  We’re talking about it.  I’m so confused.

     Answer

     The critics have some valid complaints for you to consider.  You have worked hard to get a graduate degree and get the good job you now have.  Ideally, it might be a good idea to find a woman in the same situation who is single with no children.

     The problem is that love is not always logical.  You also love her two children.  As you say, “together, we’re special”.  This is significant and important.  Not only are you meeting your own love and emotional needs, but you also are fulfilling the same needs in the mother and the children.  You will have an instant family with a lot of love.  Even if a lot of responsibility, that can be very wonderful and more than many ever have in life.

     I would encourage you to open your eyes wide and make sure you know the responsibilities you are taking on with not just the mother but the two children.  If after doing that you still want to be with them, then continue with enthusiasm.  Based upon what you are saying, you have done this and love her and the children.  Give credence to your feelings and do not deny them.

     If after soul searching you are still convinced you love her and the children and want to marry her and she agrees, then do it and be proud.  That you know you are loved and needed is wonderful.  Many persons never have those needs fulfilled because sadly they often do not act when the opportunity arrives.

     If you become convinced you are going to marry this person you love, you can just do it and that is that.  You also can meet with your family and friends and let them know how you feel and what you are going to do.  Even though you do not need to, you can explain how you feel and ask for their support.  Hopefully they will all support you out of respect for your feelings.  If they do not, be ready to do what you feel you must do and not worry about approval.

     If you follow your heart and your relationship ends in marriage, then your new primary priorities will be you, your future wife and the children.  It could be a great and rewarding life.

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    Underemployment Can Cause Family Conflicts

    The following question comes from a spouse whose husband is escort mersin underemployed and the result is a family in turmoil. The suggestions I give could be helpful to you. In the difficult economy of Michigan, this is a common problem we see with families seeking counseling. At a positive level, be aware these are some things you can do to make things better.

    Question

    Our family is in turmoil since my husband lost his job and took a lesser one. What can one parent do when the other one is unhappy at work?

    Answer

    We sometimes underestimate the importance of having a job comparable to one’s abilities. In a time of major corporate downsizing and privatizing in government, it ought not be surprising that many people are clearly not in jobs comparable to their training and ability. While the comparisons may seem extreme, ask yourself how happy General George Patton would have been making guns or Julius Caesar spears? Many of those with spouses unhappily underemployed will readily tell you the suffering they are going through and how this negatively impacts on them and the family; and often on friendships and the overall quality of life of the family.

    If someone’s spouse is suffering from one or more of the following:

    Consider the following seven suggestions:

    1. Listen, Listen and Listen Some More. People who are suffering and see no way out of their work related dilemma need to talk about it with a kind and sympathetic spouse, family members and friends. There is no substitute for caring empathy by the spouse and others who care for the person in work related turmoil.
    2. Give Praise For Doing the Job and Recognition of How Difficult it is to go to a Job You are Overqualified For. Getting up daily and going to work is a major task for many under the best of circumstances and it can be torture if one hates the job and sees it far below his/her capabilities. Giving encouragement to keep trying to do his/her best along with praise for doing it for the sake of family and other valid reasons can be critical to the person continuing to function as effectively as possible.
    3. Constant encouragement to keep resume updated and look for a more fulfilling job. It can be good mental health to simply put a resume together. Even if a job does not develop, having the resume ready for a possible job prospect can be positive and have the person who is unhappily under-employed feel he/she is doing something about the problem.
    4. Seek Out Avocations. When one’s work is unfulfilling, putting one’s energies into avocations can be useful; and often, pleasurable avocations turn into successful vocations.
    5. For those who believe in God, help your spouse find a spiritual understanding and healing to make his/her life more livable. While faith is a very individual experience, having it can be remarkably helpful in times of great crisis and emotional turmoil.
    6. Find activities to enhance family unity and let genuine human love within the family heal some of your spouse’s pain. Of all earthly sources, the family is clearly the most obvious unit to help a member in emotional turmoil. To utilize the family in mutually enjoyable activities and to help a member is only reasonable.
    7. Utilizing professional counseling may be useful in some situations. When the spouse cannot cope with the condition of the spouse suffering or needs are greater than one can give, then seeking out well experienced professional help is what is needed.

    As a final comment, we all know how humanly painful it is to see an exceptional human being devastated by feelings that are not healthy for the person, spouse or other family members due to under-employment. To change the course of such sad feelings in someone we love makes attempting the suggestions made here worth the effort. In order to make a difference in the lives of those we love, we must believe we can do it and try to bring it about with energetic gusto! Go for it!

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