The parent who orchestrates the parental alienation often becomes a very angry, lying, manipulative person who most negatively impacts not just self but also the child he or she professes to love. The child gets in the middle of both parents and is often coerced to do lying, repeating, imagining, treating horribly the alienated parent and being in a position to always comfort, agree with and support the parent who is doing the alienating. The alienated parent is in the situation of suffering great emotional distress as the child he or she loves treats him or her horribly and refuses to even work on changing or talking things out. Things even get worse when the alienated child is encouraged to have little or nothing to do with grandparents and other members of the family of the alienated parent. This can lead to problems with family cohesion and further isolates the alienated parent as the the child also becomes alienated from many or all family members on his or her side. The tragedy is complete and often is never rectified because the anger in embedded with beliefs that often take hold and do not change. The sad thing is that the parents who do the alienating would be appalled if they saw another person doing the same thing because they are not aware of what they are doing or choose to ignore it as they take on a virtuous image of self as trying to help the child against the evil or horrible parent of the child. Often this alienation is a continuation of a divorce or a horrible break-up of the couple that one cannot accept.