.Accept the legitimacy of your feelings. 2.Accept the reality of your situation. 3.Recognize time will as a minimum reduce the horrible feelings. 4.Seek out friends and family to talk things out. 5.Seek out a therapist. 6.As appropriate for each person, seek out spiritual support. 7. Do not allow feelings of defeat, rejection, anger and severe frustration to stop you from seeking out a healthy accepting attitude about yourself regardless of any perceived mistakes you may have made. 8.Prepare to move on in a new direction and have a successful life and potentially a new beginning with a new person in a relationship.